Five ways of making yourself attractive to the Thai ladies

Posted by paul on July 27th, 2008 filed in Living here, Locals, tourist tips

Making a qualitative connection rapidly with a lady in Chiang Mai is a skill that most men lack. You should not listen and relate each sentence that the lady says to your self instead of making an effort to comprehend certain things from your female discussion partner’s point of view. This makes it much harder to establish a good relation. You should try to evoke her feelings, and make the lady feel like she’s an interesting and pleasurable person. Here are some skills which may be useful and helpful:

A) Relate things to the girl instead of your personal life

When a girl talks about her travel experiences, like visiting certain Thai provinces, it is quite usual to directly relate it to your own travels and talk about all the places you’ve visited in Thailand or perhaps other Asian destinations, or let her know that you have never been to the places she told you about. Much better is trying to imagine what it was like for her, bring out the girl’s memories and show sincere interest in the for her amazing travel experiences. You certainly shouldn’t ignore her story by right away talking about your probably greater experiences. Connect a little, than it is ok to relate it to your own person.

B) Use the info the lady gives you

You shouldn’t sweep the personal information the girls gives you such as about her life and feelings immediately under the table. Don’t reply with only talking about yourself as this way you’ll miss the chance to connect with her. Connect on each subject before starting with the next.

C) Observe the lady’s behaviour

You should notice certain things about her appearance such as jewellery, eyes, hair style, dress, nails, scent. Thai ladies usually spend a lot of time on looking as pretty as possible; her bag may charmingly match the shoes, bag, belt, dress or earrings she’s wearing. Most dudes don’t notice such things. The girl surely will be pleased if you do. There’s often a story behind the accessories and jewellery and therefore mean something to the lady.

Girls in Chiang Mai can be fun and great company

D) Show empathy

If your partner lets you know her passion, interest, or strong point of view, there are three opportunities for you. The first option is to reply with: “Me too!”, the second opportunity is to disagree, and finally the wisest way is to explain that you fully understand why the lady has this view, passion or interest regardless of whether you share it.

If the girl likes to cook (most Chiang Mai girls do), it is not necessary to pretend that you also love to prepare food but show her that you understand why she likes it so much.

E) Have a conversation about topics that evoke the girl’s feelings and passions

Try to find out what is something your discussion partner is extremely passionate about. It could be anything from pop music, dancing, cats, to family, friends and travelling. Connect on her passions by showing interest and understanding why she feels that way. Don’t gloss over her passions and instantly change the subject by asking another question or start talking about yourself again.

Try to bear these things in mind and you’ll experience that making a good connection quickly, isn’t that difficult. You can establish it in hours instead of days. Good luck!

Tips for meeting Thai girls